How to Talk to Strangers?如何与陌生人交谈？

Be brave， worry less

多一点勇敢，少一点担忧

Dont be afraid to talk to someone who seems different from you. When you have to talk with someone different from you， you just think it can be the most enlightening and interesting experience. Even if its uncomfortable， be brave and just do it.

不要害怕與你不同的人交谈。当你不得不和与你不同的人交谈时，你就想这可能是一次最具启发性和趣味性的经历。即便这件事令你感到不自在，也要鼓起勇气，只管去做。

Be curious

保持好奇

Ask questions. Is the person wearing an article of clothing thats noteworthy？ Why did they decide to come to this event？ Research actually suggests that people who ask more questions are better liked by their conversation partners than people who ask fewer questions. A question can either kick off a conversation or keep it going.

多问问题。那人是否穿了一件吸引人眼球的衣服？他们为何决定参加这场活动？事实上，研究表明，相较于提问较少的人，提出较多问题的人更受谈话对象的青睐。问题要么可以开启一场对话，要么能够让对话继续下去。

Skip the stock questions

避开老套的问题

Skip the stock questions， and ask a question that will make your conversation partner think， which is engaging. Or start with a statement： “This painting really confuses me.” or “I cant believe how crowded the train is today.” And whether youre asking a question， replying， or making a statement， be authentic. People want to get the real you so they can express the real them.

避开老套的问题，提出一个能让谈话对象思考的有趣的问题。或者你也可以用一句表态开启对话：“这幅画真让我摸不着头脑。”或者：“真不敢相信今天火车上这么拥挤。”无论你是在问问题、回答问题，还是表明态度，都要展现真实的自我。人们想要了解真实的你，这样他们才能表达真实的自己。

Give someone a compliment

给予对方赞美

It shifts the focus to the other person and should make him feel good. When we have conversations with people we dont know， we tend to overthink what were doing wrong or what we could do wrong. Focusing the attention on the other person in those moments can help us get past those awkward spots.

这样做能够将焦点转移到对方身上，也能令对方心情愉悦。和不认识的人交谈时，我们常常会在我们做错了什么或我们可能做错什么上过度思考。此时，将注意力集中在对方身上可以帮助我们摆脱这些令人尴尬的境地。

Talk about something you have in common

谈谈你们的共同点

At the very least， youre in the same place and experiencing the same weather. But dont be afraid to dig deeper and find more interesting commonalities： Maybe youre from the same place， maybe you have a mutual friend， maybe you have a shared hobby， or maybe you work in similar roles.

至少，此刻你们身处同一个地方，感受着同样的天气。不过，要勇敢地去深入了解对方，寻找你们之间更多有趣的共同点：或许你们来自同一个地方，或许你们拥有共同的朋友，或许你们有着共同的爱好，又或许你们从事着相似的工作。

Word Bank

noteworthy /'n??tw???i/ adj. 值得注意的;显著的

I found nothing particularly noteworthy to report.

kick off 开始（事件或比赛等）

The shows kick off on October 24th.

skip /sk?p/ v. 跳过;漏过

You can skip the next chapter if you have covered the topic in class.

authentic /??'θent?k/ adj. 真实的;真正的

She has authentic charm whereas most people simply have nice manners.

mutual /'mju?t?u?l/ adj. 共有的;共同的

They soon discovered a mutual interest in music.