关于幸福

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A proverb allegedly from ancient China whichwas widely spread the West says : If you want to behappy for a few hours, go to get drunk ;if you want thehappiness to last for three years, get married ;if youwant it life-long one,take up gardening. The reasonfor the last option is this : Gardening is not only use-ful, it helps you to identify yourself with nature andthus brings you new joy each day besides improvingyour health.

A research of a US university gives a definitionof happiness as what makes a person feel comfortablypleased.

Lots of people regard it the happiest to be atleisure. But according to a study ,it is not a personwith plenty of leisure but one at work that feels hap-py, especially those busy with work having little timefor leisure. Happiness does not mean to gain whatone is after but to desire to harvest what one is seek-ing for. People often do not cherish what they alreadyhave but yearn for what they can not get.

So, happiness is a game balancing between twoends-what one has and what one wishes for. Thestudy comes to this conclusion : A happy man is onewho aims high but never forgets his actual situation ;one who meets challenges that tap his ability and po-tentiality ;one who is proud of his achievements andthe recognition given to him. He has self-respect andself-confidence ; treasures his own identity and lovesfreedom. He is sociable and enjoys wide-rangedcommunication with others. He is helpful and readyto accept assistance. He knows he is able to enduresufferings and frustrations.He is sensible enough toget fun from daily chores. He is a man capable of loveand passion.

在西方流传着一句据说是来自古老中国的谚语：如果你想要几个小时的幸福，就去喝醉酒吧；如果你想要三年的幸福，就去结婚吧；如果你想要一辈子的幸福，就去做个园丁吧。他们对园丁能一辈子幸福的解释是：不但是做有用的事，还能帮助你与自然融为一体；不但能锻炼身体．还会为每天都带来新的喜悦。

美国某所大学通过研究，给出了“幸福”的定义：使人感到舒适满意的(生活)状态。

许多人认为休闲是莫大的幸福，但调查显示：大部分感到幸福的人是有工作者，特别是那些因工作忙碌而无太多闲暇时间的人。幸福并不意味着“得到我们想要的东西”，而是“追求我们想要的东西”。人有时并不珍惜自己已经拥有的，却总去想那些自己得不到的东西。

所以，幸福就是一种在两者之间维持平衡的游戏，这两者就是我们已有的和我们想要的。这项研究最后的结论是：幸福的人就是有一个远大理想同时也不忘记自己是活在现实中的人，一个选择挑战自己才干和潜能的人。一个对自己的成就和社会认同感到骄傲的人，一个自尊、自信、自爱、自由的人，一个有交际能力也乐于与人交往的人，一个乐于助人也受人恩惠的人，一个知道自己能承受痛苦和挫折的人，一个能从日常小事上感到乐趣的人，一个能爱有激情的人。

(责任编校／陈菁菁)