鹊山上的人参鸟

2023-08-02 07:27刘杰
走向世界 2023年25期
关键词:心上人干爹彩礼

刘杰

相传很早以前,牟平鹊山脚下住着一位姓王的小伙子,忠厚老实,手脚勤快,庄稼地里也是一把好手,只是由于父母去得早,家境又贫寒,虽说已经到了婚配的年龄,可由于拿不出像样的彩礼,尽管和心上人情投意合,可迟迟没有成婚。

旧时鹊山这里有个风俗,若家里人生的头胎是男孩子,要抱出去撞贵人(也叫出行),遇到的第一个人就是他的贵人。若是遇到男的就拜为“干爹”;遇到女的就拜为“干妈”,这小伙子的心上人正是他干爹的女儿——他的干妹妹。

其实他干爹也早就看出了两个人的心思。虽说这干儿子无论相貌、人品、还是手艺都没得挑,但是家境也太贫寒,怕女儿嫁过去受罪,故一直没有答应两人的亲事, 后来竟要把女儿嫁给外地的一个老财作小妾。

哪知女儿寻死觅活地非她的王干哥不嫁,老人也没有办法。于是又想在他干儿子身上打主意。老人佯装答应了两人的亲事,但是提出了一个条件:必须拿出像样的彩礼,才可以来迎亲。拿什么东西作彩礼呢?金银财宝你拿不出,听說鹊山里有人参,你就去挖棵人参来当彩礼吧!这老头子的心里想的是:“小子,挖人参可不是什么容易的事,你就知难而退主动提出解除婚约吧!”

谁知小伙子一听条件这么简单,当即答应了,第二天就出发,进鹊山挖人参去了。

可是过了一天,小伙子没有回来;又过了一天,小伙子还是没有回来;再过了一天,小伙子还是没有回来。姑娘坐不住了,哭闹着央求父亲派人去找,一连找了四五天,终于在一座悬崖底下找到了,可是人已经不在了,大概是攀悬崖时不小心掉下来摔死的。

姑娘听到噩耗,顿时昏死了过去,一连几天汤水未进,不久的工夫也辞世而去。

我问:“再后来呢?”,母亲说:“再后来就有了这种鸟儿,每年这个季节都会出现,人们都说这鸟儿就是这个姑娘变的。”我又问 :“为什么它非得这个季节来呢?”“来找她的干哥哥呀。”母亲说,“人们都说她干哥哥变成了一棵人参,这个季节就开花结果了,这鸟儿是来把人参种子衔回家的。有人根据叫声叫它“爹爹糊涂”或“王干哥”;也有人叫它人参鸟。相传,有人参鸟的地方就有人参。

听完母亲的故事,我久久不能入睡。没想到这鸟儿有这么令人唏嘘的故事,心中也直骂这嫌贫爱富的干爹——真是糊涂爹爹。后来又听到过这种鸟儿叫,不大感到害怕了,但心里始终为姑娘和小伙子婉惜。

这个故事在鹊山一带流传很广,一般岁数在四五十岁以上的人都知道。如果你在7-9月份来鹊山小住,说不定真能亲耳听到人参鸟的叫声呢。

Once upon a time, there lived a young man named Wang at the foot of Queshan Mountain. He was upright, hardworking and a good hand at farming. But due to the early death of his parents and his poor family, he was unable to offer decent betrothal gifts and thus did not get married with his sweetheart although he was old enough to get married.

In the old days, there was a custom, known as “bumping into ones lucky star” or “traveling out”, in villages near Queshan Mountain. If the first child in a family was a boy, he would be carried out to meet his “lucky star”, the first person he came across. The baby boy was expected to take the first man he came across as his “adopted father” or the first woman as his “adopted mother”. This young mans sweetheart was just the daughter of his adopted father. In other words, she was his adopted sister.

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