告别，是为了更好的前行

By+Leonidas+Vyzas

Is a goodbye forever， or is it only until the next time？ And is every goodbye a new welcome， or is it sometimes merely a full stop？ And finally， does it come with a sunset， or with a silent nod and a broken heart？ Worldwide cinema has been concerned with the composition of a beautiful and yet meaningful goodbye scene. The following are my six favorite goodbye moments from the cinema world.

再见是再也不见，还是下次再见？每一次再见是去旧迎新，还是有时候仅仅是一次彻底的诀别？最后，再见的时候是伴着夕阳西下，还是沉默顿首、肝肠寸断？各国电影都会涉及创作美丽又意味深长的告别场景，以下是我最喜欢的六大银幕告别场景。

E.T. 《外星人E.T.》

片中的小男孩埃利奥特发现了一个意外走失的外星人E.T.，偷偷收留了他，并与他结下了深厚友谊。但E.T.最终被大人们发现，并被抓进了实验室。之后，小男孩与自己的小伙伴们开始了拯救E.T.的行动。

The Goodbye Scene： A young boy bids his alien pal farewell1） as the latter returns to his home planet， forever.

Its Importance： Who didn't have one's own heart melt upon the warmness of the intergalactic friendship formed？ "I'll be right here" is a quote with a finger targeting the head2） and not the heart， because memory is what keeps a true friendship alive. It is a physical separation， but E.T. taught us that what goodbyes do to us in person can have a seat reserved forever inside our heads.

影片以二戰为背景，讲述了一位原本大发战争财的德国商人在目睹犹太人被屠杀的惨况之后，通过贿赂德国军官获得许可，为自己的工厂招收犹太工人，以此拯救了一千多名犹太人的性命的故事。

The Goodbye Scene： A formerly vainglorious3） German businessman bids farewell to all the Jewish workers he saved from concentration camps throughout World War II， only to realize—a little too late—how much more he could have achieved.

Its Importance： All of the victims saved in the hands of Oskar Schindler are grateful during their salutation4） to him， but he is suddenly filled with regret， self-pity， and epiphany5）. His vain6） gold objects could have saved the lives of hundreds more， but it is too late for him to change things. And his breakdown and sudden realization is what he has to be burdened with from this goodbye for the rest of his days.

Schindler's List 《辛德勒的名单》

告别场景

一位曾经自命不凡的德国商人跟二战期间他从集中营里救出的所有犹太工人告别，结果却意识到自己可以救更多人，但为时已晚。

重要之处

奥斯卡·辛德勒一手救出的所有犹太难民在向他致敬告别时无不感激涕零，但他却突然感到懊恼悔恨、自怨自艾，同时也突然醒悟——他那些毫无用处的金银财宝本可以再救出几百人的性命，但想要改变已经太晚。经此一别，他的余生都不得不背负着此刻的精神崩溃和幡然悔悟前行。

1. bid （sb.） farewell： 与某人告别

2. E.T.在与小男孩告别时用手指碰触他的头说：“I'll be right here.”

3. vainglorious [?ve?n?ɡl??ri?s] adj. 自命不凡的

告别场景

小男孩向他的外星小伙伴E.T.作别，因为E.T.将要回到自己的星球，永远地离开这里。

重要之处

两人之间形成的跨越星球的友谊如此温暖，谁的心不曾为之融化呢？“我会在这里。” E.T.一边说着这句话，一边用手指着小男孩的头而不是心，因为记忆才是那个能让真正的友谊经久长存的东西。这是一次物理上的分别，但E.T.告诉我们，别离给我们身心带来的影响会恒久地在我们的脑海里保有一席之地。endprint

最好的告别

The Goodbye Scene： The mythical7） Scarlett O'Hara loses in love， only to gain in self-realization.

Its Importance： Clark Gable's unforgiving goodbye and assurance of not giving a damn8） pretty much stands in the top six goodbye scenes. But what inspires us more is the moment Scarlett decides to pack herself up9）， re-emerge from the bottom for good， and start her new life the way she wishes to， not out of grief but out of triumph and determination. It is at this moment that an unwelcome goodbye is turned into a hardening tool to be embraced by our heroine， and this scene is turned into an eternal lesson to divorcees10） wishing to rebound11） for good.

Gone with the Wind 《乱世佳人》

影片讲述了美国南北战争期间，一位农场主的女儿斯嘉丽·奥哈拉在战争的动荡中与商人白瑞德之间跌宕起伏的爱情故事。在经历爱与被爱、失去与背叛之后，斯嘉丽最终实现了自我成长。

告别场景

虚构的人物斯嘉丽·奥哈拉情场失意，却在自我实现上有所收获。

重要之处

克拉克·盖博（编注：男主角的扮演者）那不加原谅的告别和确凿无疑的满不在乎的态度足以位列六大最佳银幕告别场景。不过，更让我们深受启发的是这样一个瞬间：斯嘉丽决定收拾心情，从此重新彻底走出低谷，开始她想要的新生活——这不是出于悲痛，而是出于胜利和坚定。正是在这一刻，这场令人讨厌的告别成为令我们的女主角变得坚强的一个工具而被她欣然接受，而这个场景也为那些想要绝地反击的离异女性上了永恒的一课。

Where the Wild Things Are 《野兽家园》

影片讲述了小男孩马克斯的故事。他在一次与妈妈争吵后离家出走，来到一個神秘岛屿，成为岛上所有野兽的国王。但是经历一些事情后，他最终还是决定返回自己的家人身边。

The Goodbye Scene： A young boy waves goodbye to his invisible animal friends and the fantastic land of adventure， to both sides' acknowledgment and disappointment.

Its Importance： "Please don't go， I'll eat you up； I love you so" is one hell of12） a way to bid your king farewell. And so all the mythical creatures living in Max's heart and head are about to lose eye contact with him， but none of them will actually lose each other—not really， not ever.

Max needs to grow up and leave the images of the cute furry creatures and their mythical land， but the memories of all the things they've taught him and all he's felt among them are not to leave him anytime soon. There will forever be a home for Max's wild things inside Max， but now it's time for him to go back home.

影片是主人公戈迪得知挚友的死讯时对往事的回忆。他回忆起他们12岁时的一次冒险活动：当时，他与他的三个小伙伴为了当一回“英雄”，去河对岸的森林里寻找一个12岁男孩的尸体。在这次冒险中，他们每个人都获得了成长。

The Goodbye Scene： A boy waves his first best friend and his last childhood summer goodbye， as his future self informs us in voiceover13） of the said best friend's brutal murder.

Its Importance： The protagonist chooses to mentally say goodbye to his former best friend on the occasion of the latter's death， by remembering their last actual goodbye in flesh and blood. This serves as an opportunity for him to plunge deep into his childhood and wave it goodbye one last time. When the protagonist types， "I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was twelve"， our tears start rolling.endprint

Stand By Me 《伴我同行》

告别场景

一个男孩挥别他生平的第一个挚友和他童年的最后一个夏天，旁白是未来的他告知我们这个好友的悲惨遇害。

重要之处

当他最好的朋友死去时，我们的主角选择在心里跟他说再见——他记起他们面对面进行的最后一次真正的告别。对他来说，这给了他一个深入重温自己童年的机会，并最后一次与之告别。当主角打出“后來，我再也没有交到像我12岁那年拥有的那些朋友”这行字的时候，我们的眼泪开始滑落。

告别场景

一个小男孩向他那些看不见的动物朋友们以及那个梦幻的冒险乐园挥别，也向彼此的认可和失望挥别。

重要之处

“请不要走，我会一口吞了你，我好爱你。”这话真算是跟你的“国王”道别的神句。于是，所有那些住在马克斯的心里和脑海里的神奇动物将不再能与他四目相对，但他们其实谁也不会失去谁——不会真的失去，永远不会。

马克斯需要成长，需要告别这群可爱的毛茸动物的身影和他们那片神奇的土地，但他们教给他的一切东西，他在他们中间感受到的一切情感，这些记忆永远不会离他而去。在马克斯的心里，永远都有一处是他那些动物朋友们的家，但现在他该回自己的家了。

4. salutation [?s?lju?te??n] n. 招呼；致意

5. epiphany [??p?f?ni] n. 顿悟

6. vain [ve?n] adj. 无用的；无意义的

7. mythical [?m?θ?kl] adj. 虚构的

8. not give a damn： 满不在乎

9. pack oneself up： 整理，收拾

10. divorcee [d??v???si?] n. 离婚的人，离异者（尤指女子）

11. rebound [r??ba?nd] vi. 反弹

12. one hell of： （表示强调）极好，极坏，极大

13. voiceover [?v??s???v?（r）] n. （电影、电视节目或广告的）画外音，旁白

14. 为了帮助理解，这里列出母亲奥利维亚在与儿子梅森告别时的独白：This is the worst day of my life. You know what I'm realizing？ My life is just gonna go， like that. This series of milestones. Getting married. Having kids. Getting divorced. The time that we thought you were dyslexic （阅读障碍）. When I taught you how to ride a bike. Getting divorced again. Getting my master's degree. Finally getting the job I wanted. Sending Samantha off to college. Sending you off to college. You know what's next？ Huh？ It's my fuckin' funeral！ ... I just thought there would be more.

这是一部历时12年才拍摄完成的电影，讲述了少年梅森从幼年到成年12年间的成长历程。期间，他的母亲奥利维亚曾两次离婚，为养大梅森和他的姐姐含辛茹苦。

The Goodbye Scene： A young man says goodbye to his mother before leaving for college， and she comes to realize that she also has to say goodbye to him.

Its Importance： This scene expresses one of the most common reactions to a goodbye speech most of us have come to experience—we don't want to say goodbye. Yes， her child is now a grown man who has to go to college； yes， kids grow up and life goes on， but does it really？

During her breaking monologue14）， Olivia comes to realize that she is not only losing contact with a child， but also the meaning she's given to her everyday life throughout all these years. How do you accept the roughness and inevitability of "time takes it all" as life goes on， by merely waving goodbye to the person you love most of all in the world？

And not because he is dying， but because he has to live， like you. We don't have the answer， the director doesn't have the answer， and Mason merely keeps on his ride moving forward—because this is merely life.

最好的告别

Boyhood 《少年时代》

告别场景

一个年轻人在去上大学之前跟母亲道别，而母亲也开始意识到，她也得和他说再见了。

重要之处

这个场景道出了我们大多数人开始经历的对道别之词最常见的反应之一——我们不想说再见。没错，她的孩子现在长大了，要去上大学了；没错，孩子们长大了，生活还在继续，但果真如此吗？

在奥利维亚那段情绪崩溃的独白里，她开始意识到，她失去的不仅是与孩子的联系，还有这些年她赋予每个平常日子的意义。你所做的不过是挥挥手道别这个世上你最爱的人，要如何就这样接受日子过着过着“时间就会带走一切”这种简单粗暴又逃不脱必然的论调？

而且这不是因为他要死了，而是因为他要活着，像你一样。我们没有答案，导演也没有答案，而梅森就那么继续迈步前行——因为这就是生活。

1. disclosure [d?s?kl????（r）] n. 公开；透露

2. hospice [?h?sp?s] n. 临终关怀医院，这里指“临终时刻”。endprint